The Sexual Health Chronicles: Sex Key to Emotional Connections

Sex is the essential ingredient for emotional health to exist within any romantic partnership. Physical relations form a key foundation for emotional connections to strengthen; as a result, couples should always make time for intimacy in their hectic daily lives. As it turns out, intercourse can keep two individuals bonded through any degree of chaos. This useful guide explores the various ways that frequent sexual interactions can enhance the emotional aspects of a relationship.

Establish Communication

The successful pursuit of shared enjoyment requires a keen focus on each party's needs and impulses. Responsive listening is a useful skill that can be learned through repeated romps in the bedroom. The ability to openly express personal sexual information creates a pure line of truthful communication that can be applied to all other arenas of life.

Build Acceptance

Two people are perhaps the most exposed during a sexual encounter. Embracing one another in a moment of exclusive nakedness allows both parties to feel emotionally accepted on a primal level. Being able to fully share passion is an exquisite luxury that unites people in profoundly transcendental ways, and the deep mental link can never be broken by lesser trivialities. Sexuality gives everyone a chance to experiment with unconditional love, which does wonders for emotional health. 

Create Sense of Belonging

The basic wiring of human psychology causes people to rely on stored memories for attributions of pleasure, which means dependence will be bred in a Pavlovian manner. Orgasms will continuously reinforce the need for close proximity. Maintaining pleasurable forays during busy times will ensure a peacefully intertwined lifestyle. 

Ingrain Self-Confidence

A high frequency of intimate encounters naturally boosts one's own sense of desirability, which automatically induces an increase in personal optimism. An increased rate of sexual interactions facilitates an increase in pheromone production, which will garner positive reception from audiences of the opposite gender without even consciously trying. Furthermore, afterglow grants real benefits too; mainly, skin complexion will start to clear after a vitamin release caused by incorporating multiple orgasms into a regular regimen. 

The Motivation of Mutual Satisfaction

The routine occurrence of sexual bonding can make an arduous work schedule seem much more rewarding. Conventional wisdom is simply wrong when it declares a busy schedule to be a valid excuse for infrequent intimacy; in fact, the human brain is designed to be more productive once basic needs are fulfilled. Scheduling a sexy evening can make a long work day go by a lot faster. On a physiological scale, sex helps foster a balanced hormonal state for clearer thinking skills and harmonious emotional perspectives. 

Learn Patience

Sex is not always easy or straightforward. Romantic activities are not always going to consist of non-stop unbridled passion. There will be plenty of obstacles, but a loving partner will take the time to discover heightened states of consummated bliss. During times that render intimate moments difficult, it helps to have a compassionate significant other that is willing to explore new ways of creating personal bonds.

Take good care of yourself!

The Sexual Health Chronicles: Spice up the Bedroom with Toys

Sex toys are fun. Is there a better reason for trying them out? Perhaps your time in the bedroom isn't what it was in the beginning. Maybe you're simply curious about the hype surrounding sexual toys. It's also possible that you want to fulfill some secret fantasy that wouldn't be possible without a sex toy. Whatever the reason, one thing is certain about incorporating toys into your intimate life: things will get spicier because new is exciting.

Why Some People Are Reluctant About Using Sexual Toys

While the thought of using sex toys can really make some people's hearts race, others aren't so sure about the idea. Some individuals might perceive using objects for arousal to be unnatural or even taboo. Many men see dildos and vibrators as competition with uncanny size and stamina--and that intimidates them. They're afraid that their partners will develop unrealistic performance expectations after getting used to battery-powered toys. There are also individuals out there who question the safety of putting foreign objects into very private areas. It's also possible that certain sexual toys are too pricey for many people's tastes, or that being unfamiliar with the vast selection of sexual implements and their operation can be quite off-putting. The list goes on, but unless you're completely against the idea of experimenting with them, it's worth giving it a shot to see how things pan out. Your initial impressions could change very quickly.

Take Your Intimacy to the Next Level

If you currently find intercourse to be boring or can't seem to climax anymore, it's obvious that being intimate doesn't arouse you as much as it should. Toys can change all of that if you're willing to try.

Sexuality isn't just a physical matter. It also has everything to do with the mind. Trying something new and unfamiliar can be extremely arousing for many couples. Frankly, that's why people are so prone to cheating. It's the idea of being with a complete stranger and having a brand new experience with that individual that's so exhilarating. Of course, cheating on each other is the last thing that a committed couple would ever want or think of doing. Toys, however, can have the same thrilling effect on a couple's dying relationship.

The Best Toys for Couples Just Getting Into It

If both you and your partner are on the same boat about playing, you're going to have to stop by a toy store to stock up on goodies. Here are a few common toy types that might strike your fancy.

> Dildo

Dildos are phallic objects made from a soft plastic material. They're the most basic of bedroom implements and must be manually operated by the individual receiving or giving. Dildos come in all shapes, sizes, and colors, so select a form that both partners find to be pleasing.

> Vibrator

The vibrator is a toy that creates vibrations when activated by a switch or remote control. Vibrators may also come in phallic shapes, but they can also exist in various different forms from finger pads and "bullets" to things that are more complex. Originally designed as a woman's private companion, vibrators are inserted into the vagina and may also include a part for stimulating the clitoris.

> Penis Ring

The penis ring is usually a stretchy band that slides down the shaft of a penis to the base. It also vibrates and stimulates both the male and female partner during intercourse.

> Anal Beads

Couples interested in back door fun could find much enjoyment in using anal beads--plastic spheres of varying sizes attached to a string. The spheres are inserted into the anus one at a time and are meant to cause sexual arousal during both insertion and pull-out.

Have some fun and take good care of yourself!

Healthy Sex Chronicles Part I: 4Play All Day Long

You've probably heard that good foreplay is the secret to great sex. Well, it's true, but foreplay doesn't just refer to the brief fondling that occurs minutes before intercourse. Experts believe that it also includes every suggestive action that occurs throughout the day between partners before leading up to sex. Keeping your partner primed for what's to come is the surest way to have him or her begging for the big finale.

Why does all-day foreplay work?

Imagine that you're cooking steaks for dinner. Would you rather throw it on a skillet right away, or would you prefer to let it marinade in an awesome blend of spices overnight before savoring it? The latter obviously sounds more appealing, right? The same reasoning applies to sex. Foreplay is the marinade that makes everything taste so much better.

The power of suggestion is one that's very hard to resist. Foreplay is all about suggestion. Doing little things here and there to entice your partner over the course of the day is the way to build up carnal desires. Sex is as much a mental game as it is a physical one. The brain is an amazing thing, and without thinking about sex beforehand, the sexual activity wouldn't be nearly as enjoyable as it could be. When your partner is lusting for your touch, the level of arousal that he or she feels when you both finally make contact will be seriously magnified. That's exactly what you want.

What can I do to tease my partner?

There are many ways to wet your partner's sexual appetite. On the day that you plan to get freaky, here's what you can do.

> Give your significant other a juicy smooch before heading off to work

Instead of the typical peck on the cheek, use your lips and tongue with this one. Take your time, and don't be afraid to ruin your lipstick. You can always reapply it.

> Leave a sexy note in your partner's purse or briefcase

There are few surprises more pleasant than letting your partner know what you want to do to him or her after work. Sticky notes carefully placed in pants pockets, wallets, or even on a laptop screen should do the trick.

> Send each other "sexts" throughout the day

Sexy text messages will surely have your significant other yearning for more after you've stimulated that mind repeatedly.

> Surprise your partner by sending seductive photos over email

Like they say, pictures are worth a thousand words. In this case, risqué self-shots could be worth the best sexual experience you've ever had.

Enjoy and take good care of yourself!

"O"MG....It's Ladies Night!

Now ladies, it's real easy to blame your partner when you don't reach an orgasm. Ever said "I need more foreplay," "I can't just turn it on and off," "the romance needs to start during the day," "we need to switch it up...it's too routine," etc, etc? Well, I'm here to say that you can take control of your own pleasure experiences, regardless of your partner's endowment, creativity, or as Flavor Flav says "romantiCAL" abilities.  

There are many reasons woman don't reach the big "O's" or have rather dull orgasms when they do climax. Yes, orgasms from oral sex is all good, but it's not the kind that make you want to cry, scream loud enough to wake your neighbors, or rush home and smack your mama! These tips are helpful for woman that have low sex drives, weakened pelvic muscles because of childbirth or age, or just want to spice up their love life.

Not to get all scientific and psychological on y'all, but a lot of woman suffer from slight depression and don't know it. We all get stressed out once and awhile, we eat poorly, don't exercise, or we engage in unhealthy lifestyles (excessive drinking, smoking, use of prescription drugs). I threw in prescription drugs because meds (e.g. birth control pills or meds for anxiety/depression) can interfere with your natural hormones causing a low sex drive. These unhealthy lifestyles can cause the following:

• Low dopamine levels. Dopamine is the neurotransmitter from your brain that signals that whatever activity you just did was good one. It basically makes us feel good...so when we do things like eat a brownie or have good sex, dopamine is released in the brain.
• Unbalanced serotonin levels. Serotonin is another neurotransmitter in the brain. It enhances alertness, improves mood, and makes people feel happy.  A balanced amount of serotonin helps us handle stress, regulate appetites, and makes us feel energized. When your serotonin is rock bottom you are usually suffering from severe depression...when it's too high, you may be super efficient and getting things done; however, you are too amped to have sex because you're thinking about reorganizing your closet.
• Low free testosterone levels. This is the hormone that makes you crave and desire sex. Men have way higher amounts of this hormone than woman which probably why they think about sex ALL THE FREAKING TIME. This is the mojo that you need to get your groove back. Free testosterone  is the ratio of your total level of testosterone in your body and the level of sex-hormone binding globulin (SGBH) present. The lower the SGBH, the higher the free testosterone. 

So now that we've had that brief science lesson. Here are some tips for getting your "O"MG!!

• Take lots and lots of fish oil everyday. Fish oil increases your dopamine levels. Consider it your holistic Viagra. When I say a lot, I mean 2500mg EPA, 2000mg DHA per day. Check the bottle to see how much EPA and DHA are in each capsule of fish oil. Be prepared to take over  6 capsules a day (2 at each meal). If you weigh more than 230 lbs, take up to 3400mg EPA and 2600mg DHA in your fish oil capsules. 
• Take a calcium, zinc, and magnesium (1000/400/15mg) supplement everyday.
• Take an iron supplement (27mg) every 2-3 days.
• Eat 1/2 oz of dark chocolate everyday to increase serotonin levels. 
• Eat nuts, and lean protein. Ever notice how men that eat a lot of meat have that "strong, manly, lumberjack" sex appeal. It's in the meat. Lean meat raises your free testosterone hormone levels. 
• Avoid the following things as much as possible because they kill serotonin levels and increase the SBGH:
• Starchy and sugary foods
• Anti-depressant meds 
• Caffeine and herbal teas that have caffeine (gingko and ginseng)
• Excessive alcohol
• 2-3 days lift light weights. Added muscle also increases free testosterone levels. Don't worry light weights with many reps won't turn you into She-Ra!
• Invest in vaginal cone weights or Kegel exerciser to strengthen your pelvic muscles. This will allow you to control your sensations during sex. I recommend: GyneFlex with VTP (R) - Regular Strength

I know this is a sensitive subject so feel free to send me a message if you have questions or leave an anonymous comment and I will respond. It's your right to have a great sex life and when that's in check, the usual daily annoyances don't seem so bad!

Take good care of yourself!